I don't actually believe in letting your friends do that much... how can I explain this. Like, in Japan there's this whole "Nakama Society" where everyone, even complete strangers, so long as they're Japanese they are allowed to be rude to each other. On the airplane you'll see like, a kid trying to get his jacket on or something and he just like punches someone else and doesn't even apologize. On the buses and trains, there could be an elderly person standing up without a seat and no one would get up for them. This whole, you can disrespect someone if you really love them was never in my upbringing. I was never allowed to disrespect my mom, and it actually became a problem when I was in Thailand and was hospitalized. My friend was taking care of me and whenever she brought me tea or anything I would say "Thank you" and she got really angry because close friends and family aren't supposed to thank each other, that saying that enforces some kind of distance.
Now with the close friends thing, I can see the opposite definitely being true, that instead of being more mean, you're allowed to be more nice because you're friends. You do crazy favors and really go out on a limb for a member of your nakama, and sometimes you're really in a pinch and that's when they do the same for you. I learned who my real nakama was when I injured my eye in May... '07, yeah. When your head is completely bandaged and you're effing blind, there's nothing you can do for yourself since you're unaccustomed to it. I had to think about, who has called me on the phone since I told everyone what happened? Who would still be my friend if I ended up blind? Anyway <3
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I don't actually believe in letting your friends do that much... how can I explain this. Like, in Japan there's this whole "Nakama Society" where everyone, even complete strangers, so long as they're Japanese they are allowed to be rude to each other. On the airplane you'll see like, a kid trying to get his jacket on or something and he just like punches someone else and doesn't even apologize. On the buses and trains, there could be an elderly person standing up without a seat and no one would get up for them. This whole, you can disrespect someone if you really love them was never in my upbringing. I was never allowed to disrespect my mom, and it actually became a problem when I was in Thailand and was hospitalized. My friend was taking care of me and whenever she brought me tea or anything I would say "Thank you" and she got really angry because close friends and family aren't supposed to thank each other, that saying that enforces some kind of distance.
Now with the close friends thing, I can see the opposite definitely being true, that instead of being more mean, you're allowed to be more nice because you're friends. You do crazy favors and really go out on a limb for a member of your nakama, and sometimes you're really in a pinch and that's when they do the same for you. I learned who my real nakama was when I injured my eye in May... '07, yeah. When your head is completely bandaged and you're effing blind, there's nothing you can do for yourself since you're unaccustomed to it. I had to think about, who has called me on the phone since I told everyone what happened? Who would still be my friend if I ended up blind? Anyway <3