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My mom's best friend's other best friend husband passed, so my mom has been supporting Sharon a lot so Sharon can support her friend. Cloud had just made a post about how your significant other shouldn't be your best friend just so you had this kind of support system. It's sound logic. I think being in a triad, I do manage to find the one loop hole, but it's an interesting thing to ponder on.

We were also discussing (Ju and me this time) the mentality that both of us ran into this summer that friends can put your through anything and have no consequences. Amanda tried to patch things up with her at least twice, and although Alex didn't try that, I know when he started that fight he didn't mean it to be the end (He said as much bluntly) but there seemed to be some belief that he could say and do anything, and I'd deal. And I'd bet money in that circle I get shit for not "Trying enough" or something. I know Amanda tried to pull that on Ju.

It's weird to me, and I'm someone who fully endorses talking shit about people you love. You can't ignore that friendships aren't all sparkles and sunshine, but you can't go the other way to down right abusive either.

Kiona's gonna post a list of rules for arguing from her sexuality class, and I really wanna see them. Shiiit I miss her.

And I'm suppose to call her. Hehe

Before I go, have a gorgeous video with a gorgeous song:

This is the part of the concert I cried during.

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Wow cool song! <3

I don't actually believe in letting your friends do that much... how can I explain this. Like, in Japan there's this whole "Nakama Society" where everyone, even complete strangers, so long as they're Japanese they are allowed to be rude to each other. On the airplane you'll see like, a kid trying to get his jacket on or something and he just like punches someone else and doesn't even apologize. On the buses and trains, there could be an elderly person standing up without a seat and no one would get up for them. This whole, you can disrespect someone if you really love them was never in my upbringing. I was never allowed to disrespect my mom, and it actually became a problem when I was in Thailand and was hospitalized. My friend was taking care of me and whenever she brought me tea or anything I would say "Thank you" and she got really angry because close friends and family aren't supposed to thank each other, that saying that enforces some kind of distance.

Now with the close friends thing, I can see the opposite definitely being true, that instead of being more mean, you're allowed to be more nice because you're friends. You do crazy favors and really go out on a limb for a member of your nakama, and sometimes you're really in a pinch and that's when they do the same for you. I learned who my real nakama was when I injured my eye in May... '07, yeah. When your head is completely bandaged and you're effing blind, there's nothing you can do for yourself since you're unaccustomed to it. I had to think about, who has called me on the phone since I told everyone what happened? Who would still be my friend if I ended up blind? Anyway <3

Yeah, I think like...it's a delicate balance. You do get more comfortable with friends, and you can be more blunt I think, but there's a line between blunt and insulting.

Real friends always become apparent in a pinch. This summer was epically awesome that way.

at least thats partially true

It is. Snow Patrol makes me cry a lot ;_;

ya ditto

I'm not sure why this is anon on my LJ, I'm fairly certain I know who you are, and since you seem to be being fairly decent and conversational, if you want to talk more, my e-mail is penguinfaery@yahoo.com and my IM is Foxy Malfoy, and I'll be on tonight at some point. If you feel like you still have things you need/want to talk out, I won't bite your head off. Like...if you are who I'm thinking, I don't think we'll be BFFs~! or anything, but if you're wanting closure or peace or something, I'm willing to talk.

Edited 2009-10-20 02:32 (UTC)

are you sure?

cuz i wont be hostile either.... i dont have a yahoo im anymore but i can def remake one. yep.